Well I just realized yesterday that this thought, that love is a choice not a feeling, applies to us single girls too. Waiting for the one, abiding in the Lord in the mean time, finding fulfillment in HIM is all about a choice not a feeling.
It doesn't always feel good to be alone. It doesn't always feel good to not have that "other half" of you. To have someone to just text or call because you can. It doesn't always feel good to be 27 and watching virtually every peer and even younger girl get married and start having babies. Sometimes my feelings tell me to flirt with this guy or that guy because I want that attention. Sometimes my feelings tell me to wear something that's not quite what I ought to because I know some guy will enjoy it. Sometimes my feelings tell me that this isn't fair. That God CREATED me to have this need and so why aren't I getting it filled while others are. This is all what my feelings tell me. But I can't listen to my feelings because love, true love, the kind of love that I am waiting for, the kind of love that I won't be passing up for second best, is what I am CHOOSING to wait for. I am choosing to hold onto my heart and my purity. To save all of me for my future husband. I am choosing to love him and respect him now through my interactions with other men. I am choosing to not begin looking for possibilities where there really aren't any just because I'm tired of waiting. I am choosing to NOT listen to my feelings when they begin to lie to me.
So! Girls! Yes, this is a good thing to learn in respect of marriage. That love is a choice. Something you have to choose to do even when you don't feel like it. But it's also something that those of us who are still single need to learn. To remember that this is a choice you have made (a WONDERFUL choice!) and there will be times that your feelings won't line up with your choice and you will have to again choose to wait. Choose to save. Choose to love.
With Prayers, Sarah